I FOUND THE SECRET TO BECOME SUCCESSFUL

From how to be successful in life, business, personally, professionally, this list is enormous. I have become so caught up on how to figure out who is right or wrong for that I just had to find out what the answer was. Hearing about success and how to be successful in “15 minutes” has led me to look at what success truly is, and found there are many different routes to get there. 
Just google the dreaded question of “how to be successful” or “Tips on how to be successful”, and you will find hundreds of different articles or paths, as well as, many common threads.

So is this really another article on how to be successful? not really actually…

What drove me to look at this question deeper, was after I saw two different post on LinkedIn just a few days apart from each other. One post was titled, “17 things you should quit doing to be more successful”; and the other, “6 Things You Must Quit Doing Now to Be More Successful”; mind you this one was very similar to a forbes.com article from 2013 “6 Things You Should Quit Doing to Be More Successful”

So, after reading these three different articles I just had to look at this topic and do a bit of personal research to find out what we should really be doing to be successful, and see what ALL of these people know, that I didn’t…so to google and ebsco (a college scholar site) I went.

Looking for answers, I could not believe how many articles there were on how to be a success, or what not to do to be successful. One thing I did notice was an overlapped, but not one of the articles were exactly the same. This then drew me to a conclusion, no one really knows how to be successful, but rather, what works for them the individual.
No one really knows how to be successful, but rather, what works for them the individual. 
When you google how to be successful and the first search you see is a success.com article “10 Tips to Achieve Anything You Want in Life” (https://www.success.com/10-tips-to-achieve-anything-you-want-in-life/) This tells me how to get everything thing I want, I was excited because I thought I was missing something. Unfortunately, in a materialistic standpoint, this has not happened yet; however much of what was presented I already knew, think about it. To be successful you need to, be committed, knowledgeable, have fun, don’t think bad thoughts, etc, etc, etc.

But, if I already know this, does this mean that I am successful? Well I think the question should be, how do you define success? This is what needs to be answered, and what you will see is, not everyone will be the same.

You may be asking yourself right now, then if not everyone is the same, how do “I” then become successful?

You don’t have to worry about that, we have you covered here, because we found the secret, that can help in guiding each individual, as an individual, and here is it, you ready...

Each person needs a customized approach. To do that, my friend, set your own goals. That’s right! setting your own personal goals (including professional) can and will lead you to what YOUR success looks like, for you. I found that over 70% of the articles reviewed eluded to setting goals based on your passion, what your good at, and what motivates you, will help you become successful.

To be successful you need to find you passion and motivation of what your good at and set goals.
Once you set goals be flexible in your decision making. Why? because, today may not be the day that everything aligns and you hit the jackpot. But, you never know who you will come across tomorrow that can change the entire dynamic and the end results. Be aware this is not the same as procrastination, it’s called being patient.
Procrastination will kill a dream, but patience and following your intuition, will help it come to fruition if its REAL!
Find a coach or mentor. Someone in your filed/profession (mentor) and a coach that can help in developing you both as a person and professional, while you are engaging at all levels of leadership. Always look up to the next role that you would like to take on, and remember to share your information with the ones who follow you.
Seeking knowledge and sharing this knowledge will help in making you even better then you were yesterday.
Have the right people in your corner, even people that may challenge you. Abraham Lincoln did this and it made him successful. Check out the book from Doris Goodwin (Team of Rivals: The Political Genius of Abraham Lincoln). You want to have people that will support you, as well as redirect you when necessary, and challenge you, which will make you stronger, and more aware. Remember that you are not the same person as the person to your left and right. YOUR DIFFERENT, and you will not have the same results. Think about this, were you ever really good in a specific subject in school, but lacked in another, this is kind of the same thing.
You will be successful when you find out what sets you apart from the others. Knowing this allows for an individual to growth within one self.
There will always be critics, if you listen to them and believe their point of view (POV) you will fail, no really, you will fail. Have you ever head of a Self-fulfilling prophecy? It basically means that if you think you can (or can’t) you will (or won’t). Check out this article about self-fulfilling prophecy. https://positivepsychologyprogram.com/self-fulfilling-prophecy/

What is success anyway? How do you define success in life, leadership, career, anything…How many more articles are there going to be to tell us how we need to do, whatever it is, to be happy or successful? 

Do this
Found
Don’t do this
Found
Passion
5
Play Victim
4
Be committed
4
Make Excuses
3
Motivation
4
Procrastinate
3
Lose negative thoughts
4
Say yes to everything
3
Use imagination
4
Give Up
3
Build on your own
4
Expect good things to happen
3
Move road blocks
3
Focus on Negatives
2
Do and move forward
3
Afraid to fail
2
Follow you intuition
2
Be hard on Self
2
Find A Coach/Mentor
2
Complain
2
Don’t Burn out
2
Settle
2
Don’t get distracted
2
Live w/o goals
1
Be good at what you do
2
Stay up to late
1
Seek Knowledge
1
Being Selfish
1
Have fun
1
Control Everything
1
Find Solutions
1
Cut Corners
1
Bring New ideas
1
Be Ungrateful
1

Here is my conclusion on how to be successful, CARE about what you’re doing, be happy and have fun while you’re doing it, and help others in a way no one else can. I have read over and over again, so many different articles about how to be successful, be good at this, or don’t do that. However, after all the research I have read, there is no solid accurate measure of what works perfectly for everyone, with the exception of writing things down to essentially, remember what is was you wanted to do in the first place. I have found many commonalities, and the list below will help you in seeing what to do, or not do; but remember, it’s really all about YOU.
You, as the individual, are the only one that can define success for you.



References
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Ferreira, N. M. (2018, July 6). oberlo. Retrieved from www.oberlo.com: https://www.oberlo.com/blog/how-to-be-successful
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Hughes, P. (2013). Ten Ingredients of a Successful Customized. Employment Relations Today .
Mason, T. (n.d.). lifehack. Retrieved from https://www.lifehack.org/: https://www.lifehack.org/articles/productivity/8-habits-you-can-adapt-successful-everything.html
positivepsychologyprogram. (2018, May 1). Retrieved from https://positivepsychologyprogram.com: https://positivepsychologyprogram.com/self-fulfilling-prophecy/
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